The Daughter-In-Law Rules

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Sally Shields, Speaker, Radio Personality, and the Author of The Daughter-In-Law Rules, an Amazon #1 best seller provides the The Sari-Clad Bride with the following tips for daughter-in-laws:

So, you’ve just stepped off the bus–do not delay! For the newlywed daughter-in-law, here are five simple techniques that anyone can use to get immediate results towards a peaceful and loving relationship with your husband – and his mother! It is always important to remember one of the greatest spiritual laws of success: the quickest way to get what you want is to help others get what they want. Be a loving, kind, generous, openhearted sensitive person and the world will reflect that back to you, even in the form of your Mother-in-law! Let’s begin.

1. Send Your MIL Cards and Flowers on her 3 Special Days

Mark down the three biggies – her b-day, her anniversary (if she has one) and Mother’s Day in your date book. But here’s the secret –– get your husband to pen the card or Mom might get the impression that her son has forgotten her special days (he probably has)! So consider yourself a great ghostwriter and have him sign it from the both of you.

2. Call Your MIL Regularly

This seems like something that would be best left to your sense of spontaneity, but do not take this lightly. Pick a day of the week (such as Sunday) to call your new Mom– preferably when your husband is not around. If you are super busy, you can aim for getting her machine like when you know she’s at Bingo, but leave a message saying that you just called to say hi and to ask how she is feeling!

3. Ask Your MIL for Her Advice – Frequently!

But if you prefer, keep your matters on the inconsequential side such as what color to change the shower curtain to in the guest bathroom. But then actually do it, so that when she comes over, she’ll be proud that you followed through!

4. Tell Your MIL What a Great Job She Did as Mother

This is a proactive strategy that works like a charm. It will most likely bring her to tears and that is great! Just remember that someday you too will perhaps raise a son and can you think of a more wonderful compliment that that? Surely not! So, speaking of compliments …

5. Comp liment Your MIL’s Looks–Often!

Remember, your MIL can be just as self-conscious as you are. So take the time to notice how pretty, thin, healthy and young she looks, occasionally asking her if you can borrow a certain item of clothing, such as a scarf or a purse. She’ll feel just great that you like her style!

Planning a wedding is no joke–especially a Desi one! But, it’s important for brides to take the time out to relax and spend some quality time with themselves and what better way to do it than to get lost in a book? The Sari-Clad Bride’s book corner reviews and recommends stories that will take your mind off of your Big Day. While our main subjects of interest are hilarious wedding tales and South Asian authors (combining the two themes of The Sari-Clad Bride!), we’re open to reviewing anything you guys will enjoy. If you have any book or short story suggestions, please email us at thesaricladbride@gmail.com. Enjoy!

There are so many books out there that cover the South Asian diaspora that writers tend to get repetitive with the subject. But, Madras on Rainy Days is an offbeat, more scandalous version of what happens when an 19-year-old  Indian-American girl, Laila, goes back to Hyderabad to get married. What’s so endearing about Samina Ali’s main protagonist, Laila, is that she does not fight her heritage. In fact, in some aspects, she’s more comfortable being Indian than she is being American. Read more

Etsy.com

We love the green, orange and brown color scheme of this save-the-date card! The design is simple, yet elegant enough for a modern South Asian wedding. This Etsy.com seller mentions that the ink and envelope colors are customizable, so if you have a different theme in mind, it’s entirely doable.  A cute option for a mehndi, gayer holud or bridal shower. Click here to see the listing.

Price: $33 for a set of 25